Indecisive thoughts . . . moving beyond maybe or maybe not is not always easy.
Maybe I should or maybe I shouldn’t, plague most of us at least some of the time. Should I buy that new car? Should I accept this new job offer? Should I relocate? Is it time to break off this relationship? Will I miss the opportunity of a lifetime if I say no?
So many questions
How do we answer the questions that weigh heavy on our minds?
Make two lists: One that explores the attributes of the purchase, offer, relationship; another that lists the disadvantages saying yes would usher in.
An Attribute List might include:
How will this decision have a positive impact on me and for my family?
Is my spouse in agreement?
How will this decision affect my future career goals?
Is there a positive financial outcome?
Is this relationship one in which I see a lifetime commitment?
Do I sense God is leading my life in this direction?
The Disadvantages List might include:
What sacrifices will be required of me in time, money, commuting?
How will this choice negatively affect my family?
Will this decision create a financial hardship or crisis?
What red flags are showing up to warn me of a potential bad outcome?
What am I willing to tolerate to keep this relationship?
Why do I want to make this change? What are the underlying motives?
Maybe or maybe not isn’t done in seclusion
The issue of indecision is best resolved with trusted mentors who will speak honestly into our lives. Prayerfully consider who might be a good mentor. Choose wisely from those who live a life of integrity and have shown they are filled with wisdom.
Proverbs 12:15, 17 The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice. An honest witness tells the truth, but a false witness tells lies.
