There is an enormous need to emphasize sensitivity in co-parenting. Maxine's family has lived with the blessings and challenges of a blended family for over thirty years. She brings to her writing and speaking insight formed in the fire of trial. Her husband did not readily warm up to her children, family members failed to deal with grief from their former families, the children faced favoritism, visitation was awkward, and discipline was not unified. Within two years a baby daughter completed the "ours" of their already fragile family.
Children in blended families live in two different worlds with two different sets of rules. The rules change from house to house, and yet the children are expected to be compliant in both homes. Parents and stepparents who are willing to lay aside personal grievances and work as a team (co-parent) for the good of their combined children will open up a world of blessings, affirmation of values and establishment of camaraderie. Every adult sets the tone. Please choose to make the most of your blended journey, believing with all your heart that the daily ups and downs of family life can be a very positive thing—even the second time around.
